The IGNITE Peak Performance Blog
If you’re here, you’re probably looking to make meaningful and lasting change in your life. As a professional coach who specializes in working with women and mothers, I can help you.
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Motherhood in the Pandemic
“Motherhood is hard, but motherhood during a worldwide pandemic must be at least 1000x harder! On a good day, moms are already overwhelmed with 754 things to do, 421 places to be, and about a million things to think about. When the COVID-19 pandemic hit in early 2020, a lot of people said that ‘the world stopped’. That’s true in some ways, but for moms all around the globe, kids stayed home from school and daycare, and life suddenly became much, much busier. Goodbye routine, hello uncertainty! It became so much harder to find a spare minute for yourself. Any space you may have had from your children likely disappeared overnight.”
Calling All Moms of Gifted Kids!
“Helping moms of gifted kids is one of my areas of speciality. I’m passionate about this topic because, in addition to working with moms of gifted kids, I went through it myself (twice), and there were days I felt I was failing no matter what I did. Being a mom is incredibly hard, and we need all the support we can get! If we have a gifted kid it can be particularly exhausting. Because I use science to ignite change, I figured an academic article was as good a place as any to start a conversation about moms of gifted kids.”
Does Coaching Work?
“When I started to think about becoming a coach, I first asked myself: “Does coaching work?” I’d been a doctorate-level psychologist for many years—I was not about to engage with something that didn’t have any evidence to back it up. I’d heard stories of uncredentialed, unstandardized life coaching, so I was skeptical. After all, anyone can call themselves a coach. Very quickly, I decided, ‘No, coaching doesn’t work, and I do not want any part of it.'”
Confessions of a First-Generation College Student
“As a first-generation Latina, I made the tough choice to go to college miles away from home. I miss my mom all the time, but I always say to myself, ‘My degree is her degree.’ That’s what keeps me going. Even though my mom and I don’t talk about academia, sharing snippets of my day has paved the way for great conversations. As a bonus, I have a lot of first-generation friends, and we’ve talked about some of our shared struggles.”
Some Benefits of Space for Moms
“Often, mothers shrink themselves by no longer pursuing their hobbies, changing their career goals, eating the foods their kids will eat… In time they just disappear and become “mom” while they’re focused on raising their kids. And this is a fair coping mechanism given the craziness that ensues, especially in early motherhood. Though now I’d do anything to get it back, I think back to the days when my two girls were young and remember the complete exhaustion I often felt. There were so many workouts I missed and kid-friendly meals that I ate while racing around attending to them.”
Do You Hate Exercise?
“For people like myself, it’s really hard to exercise. All the emphasis on its importance doesn’t make it any easier. It actually makes me feel worse. When thinking about wellness and exercise, there are many ways a person can stay active. You don’t need to be a Peloton superstar or marathon runner to be in good shape.”
The ‘Incapable’ Empty Nester
“I am now 57 and a half. I have been around the block a time or two as an empty nester, as a mom, and as a professional with over thirty years of experience working with moms. From what I have seen, Jamie is not the typical mom coping with her child leaving — not at all. When I was researching for this blog, I found this powerful piece. It challenges the idea that when we face the empty nest we will be left asking our kids ‘If I’m not your mother, do I even exist?'”
Supporting Your College Student’s Mental Health
“In my experience, moms who focus only on the good stuff often leave their kids unprepared when the bad stuff happens. If you would like more information about the challenges college students face and how you can be prepared, you can go to my website to learn about my specialized coaching and on-demand webinar: “COLLEGE UNCOVERED: 10 Things Moms Need to Know about College Life.” You can also learn about services that I offer for your big kid!”
Open Letter to Moms of College Students
“Within the first few weeks of my first being away, I found myself dealing with that dreaded phone call in the middle of the night. My big kid and their brand new friends witnessed a very disturbing and serious incident. They took all the right steps. They tried to get help. While I was very upset and worried, I was confident that the school would respond well. I knew the road would be rough, but I also knew the school would both protect and care for the students. I was completely confident that my child and their friends would get the support and help needed. In fact, over speakerphone at 1:00am, I assured them they would. I literally promised them. It turns out that I could not have been more wrong.”
The Science of Gratitude
“Overall, there is strong evidence that practicing gratitude can boost our sense of well-being while also motivating us to reach our goals. If you’re interested in the nitty-gritty details of the science of gratitude, I can’t recommend The Gratitude Project enough. It also touches on the ways that gender, culture, and individual experiences such as our careers, relationships, and life effects affect our use of gratitude. There’s so much to explore!”