The IGNITE Peak Performance Blog

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Empty Nesting

“One day your house is full of snacks, backpacks, shoes thrown everywhere, and dirty dishes. There is a lot of laughter and chaos. Yes, there are also tears and raised voices. Kids forgetting this and that. Losing things. Running late. They all need one thing or other, and you are the ringleader of the circus. Then, they leave. Maybe they go to college, maybe they get their first job and move out. Suddenly, all the chaos comes to a screeching halt. Are you prepared? What do you do when the ringleader of the circus is only required during school breaks? “

Wellness in the New Year

“Something I’m really proud of from 2021 is completing my science-based training in positive psychology health and wellness coaching and then passing the National Board of Medical Examiner’s Certification in Health and Wellness Coaching exam. This means that in addition to having my PhD and being an ACC, I’m now also a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC)! I’m really looking forward to using what I learned to better help clients reach their health and wellness goals in 2022!”

Verstappen’s Victory

“This weekend, winning took every ounce of mental strength from Verstappen. But what about Hamilton? For the majority of that race, it looked inevitable that he would win. In that last lap, that tiny little blip of color on the chart, it was all taken away from him. Despite that, he stood up in front of the cameras and congratulated Verstappen. He shook his hand. I have no doubt that Hamilton, who is also the definition of a champion, will come back to win more races.”

Theory or Action?

“One of the fundamental lessons I’ve learned over my thirty-plus-year career is this: “An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson) Of course, some insight is relevant to the process of growth and change. Self-reflection can help us to understand who we are and why we behave the way we do. But gaining that insight, in and of itself, is not sufficient to produce change. Ruminating on the past keeps us anchored in it, and focusing on the past does not help us change the present.”

Thanksgiving Reflections

“This Thanksgiving was not my most festive. I was feeling a little down. I was caught in a negative spiral. I was focusing on all the things that were bothering me. I needed to pull myself out of it. As usual, I took a deep breath and thought about all the things that I’m thankful for in my life. This reminded me of how my grandfather consistently focused my attention on gratitude. He did it long before it was a popular thing. He wouldn’t ever dismiss my feelings, but he did consistently draw my attention back to the positive, and he made it a point to teach me to do that on my own.”

Coaching, Motherhood, and Careers

“Work can be stressful no matter who you are or what you do. But for many of half the world’s population of women, an additional stress underlies professional and work concerns – motherhood. Many women either consider or decide to take a career break after having children. Some suggest this may be due to a desire to focus on their families or aspects of organizations that make it challenging to balance motherhood and career responsibilities. Some have suggested that the gender pay gap is related to mothers’ decision to drop out earlier in their career trajectories than men, who go on to be promoted and earn more money. Motherhood transitions are also thought to be related to the scarcity of women in executive positions. Women who leave their careers to have children, even if they return later once their children are older, may be less likely to make it to the ‘top job’ than men who don’t have such responsibilities. In any case, pressure has been building for organizations to make their workplace more mother-friendly. And research has suggested that coaching can help!”

Change What You Can

“It’s not always obvious to differentiate between the things you can and cannot change, especially in challenging situations. How do you know if you’re trapped in this cycle? If I find myself thinking things like, “Well they need to…”, “They can’t….”, “They have to…”, that’s usually a sign to me that I’m focusing on things I can’t change. I may WANT someone to do something or not do something but, unless they’re breaking some sort of work policy or a law, people can behave however they choose to behave.”

A Coach’s Take on COP26

“I believe there is an environmental crisis, and I want to do my best to make sustainable individual decisions. I want to live in ways that are kind to the planet that my children and their children and their children will inherit. However, I also LOVE using paper towels. I do. I love them. They make my life easier. I rip off a paper towel, clean up a mess, and throw it away. I don’t want to give up that convenience. My love of paper towels clashes with my core value of living sustainably. It may sound like a silly example, but it really causes me stress. I just want to go about my business as usual but, because of my value system, I need to educate myself about alternative paper towel options. I need to work to disengage from old, unhealthy habits and form new, healthier ones that are congruent with my values. I may not like the daily work required but, at the end of the day, I will have an easier time sleeping at night.”

Trying Your Best

“In my ‘first career’ as a psychologist, I spent a lot of my time trying to help people cope with the consequences of regret. They become a prisoner of their past, often reliving their pain repeatedly. But, of course, no matter how much we relive our bad moments, we can’t go back and change them. Reliving the past with no power to change it causes an inescapable amount of pain and suffering. You become locked in with no way out. And while we relive the past, we lose the time we have in the present, which also hurts us in different ways. Time is not infinite, and we don’t get the time lost to reliving things back again. The cycle of regret and rumination about the past is incredibly damaging. So, how can we avoid it?”

The Space Between Stimulus and Response

“‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’ This is a quote I live by. It’s often mis-attributed to Viktor E Frank’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning. While it may not appear directly in the book, it reflects one of its core messages. The book is often referred to as ‘new age’ popular psychology, and it’s important to mention that there are very legitimate concerns about Frankl, his life, and his work. Despite that, the book has been important to me throughout my life, and it’s messages (and the ones mis-attributed to it) impact my work as a coach.”

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